The parents having an empty wallet, is an old fashioned concept. Parents who plan to pay for the wedding of daughters, usually have that….a plan. And Cathy’s parents had PLENTY of time to save up, if you get my drift. Some parents want to do it. Most couples now pay for their own weddings, mostly to get the wedding that they want to have and not answer to anybody else who holds the purse strings.
It’s different today folks. One of our DILs said I’m going to pick out flowers at your favorite florist, would you like to come? Let’s go select a cake. I thought we’d hold an engagement party here and I know you want to do the wedding breakfast. We need to take care of the church and you are friends with the pastor. The other’s father just worked out the details with my husband. The bride’s family pays about half of the cost as does the groom’s which is the way it should be. Of course, neither one of the family’s was local so it just all made sense.
Too much fuss for something that has a 50/50 chance to survive very long. It costs me a lot to go to a wedding. Then a few years later, I find that they have split up.
Both my daughters and their grooms paid for their own weddings. Fortunately my wife and I, and father, were able to gift them with enough money to pay for most of the costs. Well, it time to go off and hide in a theatre for a week. Opening curtain for our annual variety show fundraiser is Thursday and lots to do before then. I will miss you all here and look forward to ‘seeing’ you again a week Monday. Have fun.
When my husband and I got married, we paid for everything our-selves . . . not so much because we wanted to, but because we had to. My parents worked blue-collar factory jobs that paid little to begin with so when you add together a house mortgage, two cars, house/car/medical insurance, utility (plus other) bills to pay and two daughters (with me being the oldest) to feed, clothe, and educate, etc., etc., that left precious little extra savings to pay for any kind of a wedding with. So even though it wasn’t anywhere near as grand as we would have liked for it to be because we were working with such a small budget, it still turned out pretty nicely. . . and that’s the only thing that really mattered! ♥
Hi, rgcviper! :-)
hendelca: Have a great week and we’ll be “seeing” you when you get back! ;-)
Hello and Happy Saturday, fellow Cathy fans. Hope everyone’s been having a really nice weekend so far! :-)
summerdog86 almost 9 years ago
The parents having an empty wallet, is an old fashioned concept. Parents who plan to pay for the wedding of daughters, usually have that….a plan. And Cathy’s parents had PLENTY of time to save up, if you get my drift. Some parents want to do it. Most couples now pay for their own weddings, mostly to get the wedding that they want to have and not answer to anybody else who holds the purse strings.
AnonaMoaner almost 9 years ago
Our wedding cost less than a hundred pounds. But in those days, you just booked the church, invited the guests – and turned up on the day.
Grutzi almost 9 years ago
It’s different today folks. One of our DILs said I’m going to pick out flowers at your favorite florist, would you like to come? Let’s go select a cake. I thought we’d hold an engagement party here and I know you want to do the wedding breakfast. We need to take care of the church and you are friends with the pastor. The other’s father just worked out the details with my husband. The bride’s family pays about half of the cost as does the groom’s which is the way it should be. Of course, neither one of the family’s was local so it just all made sense.
summerdog86 almost 9 years ago
Too much fuss for something that has a 50/50 chance to survive very long. It costs me a lot to go to a wedding. Then a few years later, I find that they have split up.
hendelca Premium Member almost 9 years ago
Both my daughters and their grooms paid for their own weddings. Fortunately my wife and I, and father, were able to gift them with enough money to pay for most of the costs. Well, it time to go off and hide in a theatre for a week. Opening curtain for our annual variety show fundraiser is Thursday and lots to do before then. I will miss you all here and look forward to ‘seeing’ you again a week Monday. Have fun.
Gretchen's Mom almost 9 years ago
When my husband and I got married, we paid for everything our-selves . . . not so much because we wanted to, but because we had to. My parents worked blue-collar factory jobs that paid little to begin with so when you add together a house mortgage, two cars, house/car/medical insurance, utility (plus other) bills to pay and two daughters (with me being the oldest) to feed, clothe, and educate, etc., etc., that left precious little extra savings to pay for any kind of a wedding with. So even though it wasn’t anywhere near as grand as we would have liked for it to be because we were working with such a small budget, it still turned out pretty nicely. . . and that’s the only thing that really mattered! ♥
Hi, rgcviper! :-)
hendelca: Have a great week and we’ll be “seeing” you when you get back! ;-)
Hello and Happy Saturday, fellow Cathy fans. Hope everyone’s been having a really nice weekend so far! :-)
QuietStorm27 almost 9 years ago
When my sister got married our uncle paid for the pastor (last minute), the dj and food for the reception. My sister took care of everything else.
Have fun hendelca, hope everything goes well.
Hello Cathy friends. It was a beautiful day here today, hope it was where you all are also!
rgcviper almost 9 years ago
Yup—weddings can take it out of ya … physically, emotionally, and financially. They can also bee awesome, though.
Interesting stories and traditions about weddings here, too. Thanks, all.
HI, MOM. Hello, “Cathy” Clan.