Register at Fannie Mae? For what? A loan?Back in the day, if we even thought about living together we had to go to confession and take a lap around the rosary. Truthfully, if we ever even thought about anything we had to go to confession. Everything was a mortal sin and evil up until the moment of the wedding, and then it was required. No wonder we were so screwed (Hah!) up. Guilt, the great gift of the Catholic Church.
At least us girls didn’t have to worry about getting pg. The good fathers over at Jesuit High scared the boys to bad they wouldn’t touch us, And with the Merry Widow, Girdle and nylons held up by garters and 8 petticoats, they couldn’t even if they wanted to. Have you seen the Prom Dresses lately? Bikinis with skirts!My husband said he was born 30 years to soon!
“Pre” engagement…. Not gonna live together… gonna keep their options open…So…. basically… they’re…. um…maybe gonna get engaged some day, maybe not… but they want some presents now anyway?
Meanwhile… when I saw “31st Engagement Anniversary” I thought maybe this was Verla’s kitchen.But no…. I’m sure she and Jerry are only pre-pre-pre-engaged.
Burl and Joy have simply figured out how to have TWO anniversaries a year…making an extra gift-receiving occasion annually…They’re registered at Fanny Farmer and Walgreen’s… If you can’t afford Corningware, chocolate will do.
Meanwhile… this is TRUE…not one of those “a friend of my sister’s cousin heard” stories, even though it’s usually presented as the stuff of jokes and urban legends:
At the small state university where I started college, just before the so-called sexual revolution, I had to go talk to the ancient Dean of Women.
At the end of our appointment, she said she had some advice for me that she liked to give all the freshmen girls. Quite fervently, she advised me that when I went on a date with a “boy” I should always carry a large magazine…in case we crowded into the car, the way college students do, and I had to sit in his lap.I guess I looked puzzled, cos she explained that I was to place it in his lap, before sitting down.She also said…. really! … that I should never wear patent leather shoes, or pearls, because they would both reflect my underwear!I saw Pee Wee Herman do a bit on that last part in the 80’s…. and it cracked me up, remembering the Dean.
S’funny. Our rector is a former RC priest, and what was supposed to be a Bible study last night turned into exactly this sort of discussion. (We did eventually get back on topic.) He said the priests and nuns made up this stuff because they didn’t know what the h—- they were talking about.
While I am old-school RC too, I have to say that even though a lot of the priests and nuns who ran the parochial schools may have given a lot of far-fetched nonsense at times in regards to sexuality… so did a lot of other groups public and private in regards to teens.That said, I still see a great deal of merit in couples NOT living together… be it pre-engagement or after the engagement. And, in my opinion, this would stand true whether it is a couple’s first or beyond first marriage. To me, the idea of a couple’s first full sexual intimacy being after they are married is quite valuable and beneficial. Again, it is only my opinion, but I think there is merit in the notion. I realize most folks don’t do this anymore, but I am glad I did it that way with my wife.
Ninette over 9 years ago
This has got to be some kinda -ist or -ic.
mikie2 over 9 years ago
Register at Fannie Mae? For what? A loan?Back in the day, if we even thought about living together we had to go to confession and take a lap around the rosary. Truthfully, if we ever even thought about anything we had to go to confession. Everything was a mortal sin and evil up until the moment of the wedding, and then it was required. No wonder we were so screwed (Hah!) up. Guilt, the great gift of the Catholic Church.
Last Rose Of Summer Premium Member over 9 years ago
At least us girls didn’t have to worry about getting pg. The good fathers over at Jesuit High scared the boys to bad they wouldn’t touch us, And with the Merry Widow, Girdle and nylons held up by garters and 8 petticoats, they couldn’t even if they wanted to. Have you seen the Prom Dresses lately? Bikinis with skirts!My husband said he was born 30 years to soon!
SusanSunshine Premium Member over 9 years ago
“Pre” engagement…. Not gonna live together… gonna keep their options open…So…. basically… they’re…. um…maybe gonna get engaged some day, maybe not… but they want some presents now anyway?
Meanwhile… when I saw “31st Engagement Anniversary” I thought maybe this was Verla’s kitchen.But no…. I’m sure she and Jerry are only pre-pre-pre-engaged.
Burl and Joy have simply figured out how to have TWO anniversaries a year…making an extra gift-receiving occasion annually…They’re registered at Fanny Farmer and Walgreen’s… If you can’t afford Corningware, chocolate will do.
Meanwhile… this is TRUE…not one of those “a friend of my sister’s cousin heard” stories, even though it’s usually presented as the stuff of jokes and urban legends:
At the small state university where I started college, just before the so-called sexual revolution, I had to go talk to the ancient Dean of Women.
At the end of our appointment, she said she had some advice for me that she liked to give all the freshmen girls. Quite fervently, she advised me that when I went on a date with a “boy” I should always carry a large magazine…in case we crowded into the car, the way college students do, and I had to sit in his lap.I guess I looked puzzled, cos she explained that I was to place it in his lap, before sitting down.She also said…. really! … that I should never wear patent leather shoes, or pearls, because they would both reflect my underwear!I saw Pee Wee Herman do a bit on that last part in the 80’s…. and it cracked me up, remembering the Dean.
elysummers over 9 years ago
Must be like the “Promise RIng” of days gone by.
Dani Rice over 9 years ago
S’funny. Our rector is a former RC priest, and what was supposed to be a Bible study last night turned into exactly this sort of discussion. (We did eventually get back on topic.) He said the priests and nuns made up this stuff because they didn’t know what the h—- they were talking about.
Pipe Tobacco over 9 years ago
While I am old-school RC too, I have to say that even though a lot of the priests and nuns who ran the parochial schools may have given a lot of far-fetched nonsense at times in regards to sexuality… so did a lot of other groups public and private in regards to teens.That said, I still see a great deal of merit in couples NOT living together… be it pre-engagement or after the engagement. And, in my opinion, this would stand true whether it is a couple’s first or beyond first marriage. To me, the idea of a couple’s first full sexual intimacy being after they are married is quite valuable and beneficial. Again, it is only my opinion, but I think there is merit in the notion. I realize most folks don’t do this anymore, but I am glad I did it that way with my wife.
orbenjawell Premium Member over 9 years ago
Yep….they got it all sown up in one neat ’lil package……like (so many) of us did when I was “pretty smart” for 18.
MeGoNow Premium Member over 9 years ago
That’s just code for, “We’re gonna have sex, but we’ll still sponge off our parents.”