Lingerie is not a gift a man gives to a woman. It’s a gift he gives to himself though she wears it, for a while at least, but it’s more for his pleasure than hers.
If you don’t give me the kitchen/house tool I want for Christmas, I’ll find the money to purchase it for myself sometime in the next year. Please don’t give me jewelry or other things I’m supposed to want. Hey, I even like gift certificates for restaurants!
Men’s and women’s ideas about “lingerie” are diametrically opposed. Women buy for comfort. Men buy for what they image in their minds she looks like wearing them.
One year my husband gave me an apartment sized washer and dryer. We were four flights of stairs and three blocks from the nearest laundromat. I was ecstatic. Someone at work said he should have given me something more personal, and I told her that I couldn’t think of anything more personal than dirty underwear.
I enjoy clothes shopping for my wife and, with very few exceptions, always find things that look great on her and that she is proud to wear. Lingerie is one of those exceptions.
I learned with the first 4 or 5 years to not buy her ‘unmentionables’ blind. When we were younger we did shop at times together for her lingerie and I would buy items for her but buying something she hadn’t vetted was a major no-no!
Husband and I have been together – dating, engaged, and married for 46 years. It took me well over 20 of those years – due to all the jokes about women wanting things and saying that they do not – to convince NOT TO BUY ME ANYTHING. I don’t need anything, I don’t want anything, money spent on a gift for me is wasted and the gift better be returnable as we can’t afford to waste money. We will play games to resolve his need to buy me something sometimes – such as pre-Palm I would buy my appointment book for work and let him gift wrap it and give it to me. Yippee. Then I no longer needed same. Maybe we need to replace some kitchen thing like dish towels – I buy it and let him wrap and give it to me. Gifts for those who are grown and can afford the items needed or wanted are a stupid idea. If the item is needed it either can be afforded or not and needs to purchased in some manner anyway. If items are not needed, then it is just a waste to spend money on them.
Husband does not care what I sleep in – when I was younger and warmer it was my underpants. Now I am cold all the time and I sleep in one of my old unpresentable tee shirts and ripped jeans with loose top socks to stay warm – sometimes in winter he will borrow one of my spare sets of same to keep him warm while sleeping.
alasko almost 5 years ago
NO FLANNEL!!!
SpacedInvader Premium Member almost 5 years ago
Sounds about right. It won’t work if she refuses to wear it. Well ,maybe more than once anyway.
nosirrom almost 5 years ago
Damn, I guess I’m taking the teddy back. Maybe I ca find some peek-a-boo flannel.
Macushlalondra almost 5 years ago
Lingerie is not a gift a man gives to a woman. It’s a gift he gives to himself though she wears it, for a while at least, but it’s more for his pleasure than hers.
mddshubby2005 almost 5 years ago
The happier man makes his wife feel beautiful enough to want to buy herself lingerie. Sadly, he has yet to be found.
Dirty Dragon almost 5 years ago
Methinks we’re starting to run into the Gasoline Alley problem here, when you’re talking about buying lingerie for (near?) senior citizens.
DorothyGlenn Premium Member almost 5 years ago
One of those long tshirts with a bikini body printed on it.
crabbyred almost 5 years ago
The difference between lingerie and underwear? Underwear is comfortable.
jbrobo Premium Member almost 5 years ago
The sign of good lingerie is how neat a pile it makes on the floor next to the bed. ;)
jarvisloop almost 5 years ago
I thought that she is in the flannel stage of life.
david_42 almost 5 years ago
Almost got a ‘new’ house for the holidays, but the seller wouldn’t make critical fixes; so, it’s a ‘new’ house for my wife’s birthday.
jr1234 almost 5 years ago
Janis is warning Arlo that he will probably have to exchange it if he chooses incorrectly
well-i-never almost 5 years ago
I got told on in the third grade for swearing when I said, “None of your beeswax.” Glad to know it’s safe to say again.
Grutzi almost 5 years ago
If you don’t give me the kitchen/house tool I want for Christmas, I’ll find the money to purchase it for myself sometime in the next year. Please don’t give me jewelry or other things I’m supposed to want. Hey, I even like gift certificates for restaurants!
Retired Dude almost 5 years ago
Yeah, Arlo. Run it past us.
KEA almost 5 years ago
I never give clothes as a gift – the chances of getting mood, size and personal preferences all correct are diminishingly small
dv1093 almost 5 years ago
Lingerie at their age? Yeesch…
cuzinron47 almost 5 years ago
Arlo has a different point of view of her body then she does.
ScullyUFO almost 5 years ago
“Never give your wife a gift with a power cord”. So I gave her a Dyson vacuum.
Tyge almost 5 years ago
Men’s and women’s ideas about “lingerie” are diametrically opposed. Women buy for comfort. Men buy for what they image in their minds she looks like wearing them.
Lightpainter almost 5 years ago
What is everyone’s opinions of yoga pants being worn as an every day fashion item?
Scott S almost 5 years ago
Who says romance & passion are dead?
bevgreyjones almost 5 years ago
One year my husband gave me an apartment sized washer and dryer. We were four flights of stairs and three blocks from the nearest laundromat. I was ecstatic. Someone at work said he should have given me something more personal, and I told her that I couldn’t think of anything more personal than dirty underwear.
David Huie Green LoveJoyAndPeace almost 5 years ago
If it is the thought that counts, then think about what will actually be wanted.
David Huie Green LoveJoyAndPeace almost 5 years ago
Get her bubble bath. If she likes it, she can wear it.
bryan42 almost 5 years ago
I enjoy clothes shopping for my wife and, with very few exceptions, always find things that look great on her and that she is proud to wear. Lingerie is one of those exceptions.
I learned with the first 4 or 5 years to not buy her ‘unmentionables’ blind. When we were younger we did shop at times together for her lingerie and I would buy items for her but buying something she hadn’t vetted was a major no-no!
Night-Gaunt49[Bozo is Boffo] almost 5 years ago
When was the last time Janis has worn lingerie? She rarely looks like she is interested in that much with such low body esteem.
Natarose almost 5 years ago
I think I would be a little scared if my man ran past me in lingerie. Hahahaha!
mafastore almost 5 years ago
Husband and I have been together – dating, engaged, and married for 46 years. It took me well over 20 of those years – due to all the jokes about women wanting things and saying that they do not – to convince NOT TO BUY ME ANYTHING. I don’t need anything, I don’t want anything, money spent on a gift for me is wasted and the gift better be returnable as we can’t afford to waste money. We will play games to resolve his need to buy me something sometimes – such as pre-Palm I would buy my appointment book for work and let him gift wrap it and give it to me. Yippee. Then I no longer needed same. Maybe we need to replace some kitchen thing like dish towels – I buy it and let him wrap and give it to me. Gifts for those who are grown and can afford the items needed or wanted are a stupid idea. If the item is needed it either can be afforded or not and needs to purchased in some manner anyway. If items are not needed, then it is just a waste to spend money on them.
Husband does not care what I sleep in – when I was younger and warmer it was my underpants. Now I am cold all the time and I sleep in one of my old unpresentable tee shirts and ripped jeans with loose top socks to stay warm – sometimes in winter he will borrow one of my spare sets of same to keep him warm while sleeping.