SO true! My boys never told me anything. We did EVENTUALLY meet their serious girlfriends, not the ones they dated. The older son – met his first girlfriend – that one I liked, and the second girlfriend – currently his wife – I am not too fond of. My younger – met his high school girlfriend and now 10 years later, met his second girlfriend. All the girls in between, I haven’t the faintest.
I got to meet some of my brother’s girlfriends while he was in college (BYU-Idaho, U. of Utah). I already forget when I met his official one which became his wife (singular, not plural, when I said “wife”).
Elly’s last statement “How should I know? I’m his mother!!” is in my opinion, a very good example of irony. Ironic statements often convey a meaning exactly opposite from their literal meaning. As Michael’s mother, Elly could think back to those phone calls of Michael’s with Martha she eavesdropped on and realized her son has had a girlfriend off-and-on for the last two years. As Michael’s mother, Elly could remember this girl was the one who got into a fight with Michael over dancing at his 13th birthday party which was held at her house. As Michael’s mother, Elly probably should be aware that her son has been going out to movies at night and going to the mall with this girl instead of finding out by complete accident.
According to Martha last February, she had been dating Lawrence for 10 months in order to make Mike jealous. I guess whatever she did with Lawrence all that time did not attract Connie’s attention or she would recognize the girl.
Ever think that there’s often a reason why kids do not tell their parents whom they’re dating? It’s not the parents’ choice, they’re not the ones learning about dating, and sometimes/often the kids know their folks will be the ones to ruin a nice relationship or embarrass their children. And if they prefer “the one that got away” that’s fine – but if they’re gonna push it, let the parents marry him/her. And I’m gettin’ preachy but it’s the job of parents to teach their kids to respect those people with whom they are in a relationship. Kids who abuse those they date and who don’t realize that (and how) pregnancy happens often have parents who aren’t fully doing their jobs. It’s not just something they teach in school and it can and does happen. If either can’t happen “in the best of families” then why does it so very often?
My mom always knew, because boys would call for dates, and come to the house to pick me up. That’s how it was done. Plus, we needed transportation to go to any place farther than we could walk. Everyone knew.
I didn’t have but my best girlfriends come to my house, Debbie and Laurie. I knew a lot of others in HS what I called acquaintances. Well my dad said since you are graduating why don’t we have a graduation party for you. So I told some of my friends at school about it! Well on the night it was held, everyone and their uncle from my HS came to the party. My father said to me you know all of these people. I said yeah some better than others but yes I know them all. We had a good 300 plus people there that night. PTL we had the temporary parking lot across the street for them to park. However a fun night.
I guess my boys are different. They tell me about everyone they have gone out with, in great detail sometimes. Sometimes, I get TOO MUCH INFORMATION and would prefer if they left some of it out. I’m sure the ladies have no idea. Luckily, my eldest got married and I don’t hear from him nearly so often, and he’s learned to maintain some privacy about their lives.
capricorn9th over 5 years ago
SO true! My boys never told me anything. We did EVENTUALLY meet their serious girlfriends, not the ones they dated. The older son – met his first girlfriend – that one I liked, and the second girlfriend – currently his wife – I am not too fond of. My younger – met his high school girlfriend and now 10 years later, met his second girlfriend. All the girls in between, I haven’t the faintest.
Templo S.U.D. over 5 years ago
I got to meet some of my brother’s girlfriends while he was in college (BYU-Idaho, U. of Utah). I already forget when I met his official one which became his wife (singular, not plural, when I said “wife”).
howtheduck over 5 years ago
Elly’s last statement “How should I know? I’m his mother!!” is in my opinion, a very good example of irony. Ironic statements often convey a meaning exactly opposite from their literal meaning. As Michael’s mother, Elly could think back to those phone calls of Michael’s with Martha she eavesdropped on and realized her son has had a girlfriend off-and-on for the last two years. As Michael’s mother, Elly could remember this girl was the one who got into a fight with Michael over dancing at his 13th birthday party which was held at her house. As Michael’s mother, Elly probably should be aware that her son has been going out to movies at night and going to the mall with this girl instead of finding out by complete accident.
howtheduck over 5 years ago
According to Martha last February, she had been dating Lawrence for 10 months in order to make Mike jealous. I guess whatever she did with Lawrence all that time did not attract Connie’s attention or she would recognize the girl.
Enter.Name.Here over 5 years ago
And if Michael suddenly found out his mom was watching them together holding hands, he’d turn as red as the traffic light.
Display over 5 years ago
Ever think that there’s often a reason why kids do not tell their parents whom they’re dating? It’s not the parents’ choice, they’re not the ones learning about dating, and sometimes/often the kids know their folks will be the ones to ruin a nice relationship or embarrass their children. And if they prefer “the one that got away” that’s fine – but if they’re gonna push it, let the parents marry him/her. And I’m gettin’ preachy but it’s the job of parents to teach their kids to respect those people with whom they are in a relationship. Kids who abuse those they date and who don’t realize that (and how) pregnancy happens often have parents who aren’t fully doing their jobs. It’s not just something they teach in school and it can and does happen. If either can’t happen “in the best of families” then why does it so very often?
vaughnrl2003 Premium Member over 5 years ago
Yeah, I suppose it is one thing to know that your kid is talking to a girl but another thing to find out when it started or what ‘level’ it is on.
rebelstrike0 over 5 years ago
What is this Connie, lunch or an inquisition?
jless over 5 years ago
Lynn’s Comments:
I don’t remember my son’s first girlfriend, but I do remember my brother’s. I must have had more fun teasing my brother.
kathleenhicks62 over 5 years ago
She’s “just” a mother-the are merely beings to children.
The Martha MacRae Fan Club over 5 years ago
I must agree with Connie’s comment. Martha is so-o-o cute !
fuzzbucket Premium Member over 5 years ago
Aha! Elly never told her mother anything, either!
summerdog over 5 years ago
1craftylady over 5 years ago
Moms are always the last to know…
whenlifewassimpler over 5 years ago
I didn’t have but my best girlfriends come to my house, Debbie and Laurie. I knew a lot of others in HS what I called acquaintances. Well my dad said since you are graduating why don’t we have a graduation party for you. So I told some of my friends at school about it! Well on the night it was held, everyone and their uncle from my HS came to the party. My father said to me you know all of these people. I said yeah some better than others but yes I know them all. We had a good 300 plus people there that night. PTL we had the temporary parking lot across the street for them to park. However a fun night.
M2MM over 5 years ago
I guess my boys are different. They tell me about everyone they have gone out with, in great detail sometimes. Sometimes, I get TOO MUCH INFORMATION and would prefer if they left some of it out. I’m sure the ladies have no idea. Luckily, my eldest got married and I don’t hear from him nearly so often, and he’s learned to maintain some privacy about their lives.
Jabroniville Premium Member over 5 years ago
haha- great line from Elly here. Very true-to-life for some parents, and especially evocative of how teenagers are with their parents.