I’m questioning her wording because as a mother by adoption, our family never uses “adoptive” as description of a person. All my sons cousins, grandparents, aunts, and uncles are not “adoptive” they’re just his cousins, grandparents, aunts, and uncles.
What is an “adoptive uncle”? Is this the close family friend that you consider a relative? Or did her parents go around adopting other adults as their siblings?
Eat a spoonful of peanut butter or spoonful of sugar – works every time