Pony99CA has the right idea. The bathroom issue may seem trivial, but I believe it is the symptom of a larger and more important problem. The idea that my personal feelings trump any other considerations in dealing with others, is too prevalent today in my opinion. It’s probably one of the major causes of our increasing polarization. This philosophy has been promoted by our culture over the last several decades and has influenced almost all political, social and even artistic viewpoints.
I get what Rat is saying, but at the heart of both issues is that we have become a society that worships at the altar of self. Such a society is a society in decline.
I’m kind of partial to the third.