Some 20 years ago I had the opportunity to purchase the house I’d been renting. I’d been house-hungry for the 20 years before that and I leapt at the chance, even though I was terrified at such a big step and such a BIG debt. But years earlier, at a psychology seminar, I had learned about affirmations. The trick is to make only positive statements, i.e,, “I am brave!” and NOT “I’m not afraid”. That’s because the part of the brain that you’re trying to reprogram does not “hear” the qualifiers—thus, “I’m not afraid” is heard as “I’m afraid”. So, every time I felt the fear response building (heart rate up, queasy stomach) I’d say (out loud if I was alone) “I am brave, I am strong, I will do this”. And, even though part of me was saying that was a lot of b.s., it worked—the fear faded, my confidence grew … and I bought my house. It’s a proven technique that has served me well through the years, most recently my scary hip replacement surgery.
Events just are. It is we who decide if they are good or bad. Even something like passing a Kidney Stone can have a good outcome if it inspires you to change to a more healthy diet so that you NEVER, EVER have to go through that again.
cmxx about 1 month ago
Or revealing of inner angst.
Yakety Sax about 1 month ago
Somebody’s medication wore off!
LeslieBark about 1 month ago
Some 20 years ago I had the opportunity to purchase the house I’d been renting. I’d been house-hungry for the 20 years before that and I leapt at the chance, even though I was terrified at such a big step and such a BIG debt. But years earlier, at a psychology seminar, I had learned about affirmations. The trick is to make only positive statements, i.e,, “I am brave!” and NOT “I’m not afraid”. That’s because the part of the brain that you’re trying to reprogram does not “hear” the qualifiers—thus, “I’m not afraid” is heard as “I’m afraid”. So, every time I felt the fear response building (heart rate up, queasy stomach) I’d say (out loud if I was alone) “I am brave, I am strong, I will do this”. And, even though part of me was saying that was a lot of b.s., it worked—the fear faded, my confidence grew … and I bought my house. It’s a proven technique that has served me well through the years, most recently my scary hip replacement surgery.
Purple People Eater about 1 month ago
Sounds like she’s desperately trying to convince herself she’s not a loser.
Curtis Mathews Premium Member about 1 month ago
Sounds like she is a Mika Brezinsky follower.
HarryLime Premium Member about 1 month ago
So now you are officially a ”hipster!”
Wichita1.0 about 1 month ago
The power of positive delusion, these days.
ekw555 about 1 month ago
“It probably won’t kill me.”
Wizard of Ahz-no relation about 1 month ago
all is well! remain calm!
curtisrus about 1 month ago
Just keep telling yourself that.
DaBump Premium Member about 1 month ago
Or very amusing.
luca.debus creator about 1 month ago
I also regurgitate whatever my mindfulness instructor babbles on about and hope for the best!
ladykat about 1 month ago
Go for it, Rose!
PoodleGroomer about 1 month ago
Coffee and a chocolate-covered coffee beans snack.
DKHenderson about 1 month ago
Nothing a little chocolate can’t fix….
Bruce1253 about 1 month ago
Events just are. It is we who decide if they are good or bad. Even something like passing a Kidney Stone can have a good outcome if it inspires you to change to a more healthy diet so that you NEVER, EVER have to go through that again.
eddi-TBH about 1 month ago
Go Rose, Go!
KeithJ63 about 1 month ago
Play like a champion today!