I truly hate it when I encounter people that ask what church I go to when it’s quite clear they already have a church. Look I’m not an idiot. You most likely aren’t trying to find a new church for yourself, so you are doing one of a few things:
1) You want to know what church I go to so that you can make a guess on if my views align with yours. I’ll give you a clue the fact that you asked this question tells you that no they do not.
2) You don’t really care what church I go to, and you are hoping to convince me that your church is so much better. This is either your attempt to have a ****ing match with me about your church like two people discussing their favorite sports team, or you are displaying cult-like behavior by trying to convert me. Either way, I want to go get the spray bottle and say “Bad kitty”
3) You don’t really think I go to church but want to hear me say it and confirm it, that way you can feel justified in any prejudgements you’ve made about me. And you think that by asking the question this way instead of “Do you go to church?” you’ll somehow offend me less. But it also has an added benefit as it allows you to continue to pretend like everyone wants to go to church, and so if I answer your question of “What church do you go to?” with “I don’t go to church” you’ll feign shock and just try to convince me that your church would be more than glad to welcome me.
Sure I talk a bunch about people that ask this question, are just using it as a way to prejudge people, and you might think that in of itself is a form of prejudgement I’m making on them. But it’s not. It’s just a normal old judgment because in order for me to hold these thoughts about someone specific, they need to have made the action of speaking this stupid sentence.
I never assume anyone is going to be so rude as to ask what church I go to when I don’t even know them. Yet it still happens with strangers broaching the topic.
I truly hate it when I encounter people that ask what church I go to when it’s quite clear they already have a church. Look I’m not an idiot. You most likely aren’t trying to find a new church for yourself, so you are doing one of a few things:
1) You want to know what church I go to so that you can make a guess on if my views align with yours. I’ll give you a clue the fact that you asked this question tells you that no they do not.
2) You don’t really care what church I go to, and you are hoping to convince me that your church is so much better. This is either your attempt to have a ****ing match with me about your church like two people discussing their favorite sports team, or you are displaying cult-like behavior by trying to convert me. Either way, I want to go get the spray bottle and say “Bad kitty”
3) You don’t really think I go to church but want to hear me say it and confirm it, that way you can feel justified in any prejudgements you’ve made about me. And you think that by asking the question this way instead of “Do you go to church?” you’ll somehow offend me less. But it also has an added benefit as it allows you to continue to pretend like everyone wants to go to church, and so if I answer your question of “What church do you go to?” with “I don’t go to church” you’ll feign shock and just try to convince me that your church would be more than glad to welcome me.
Sure I talk a bunch about people that ask this question, are just using it as a way to prejudge people, and you might think that in of itself is a form of prejudgement I’m making on them. But it’s not. It’s just a normal old judgment because in order for me to hold these thoughts about someone specific, they need to have made the action of speaking this stupid sentence.
I never assume anyone is going to be so rude as to ask what church I go to when I don’t even know them. Yet it still happens with strangers broaching the topic.