Cathy Classics by Cathy Guisewite for October 03, 2004
Transcript:
Cathy: "A key to a happy marriage is learning to address complaints in a loving way". "If your sweetheart is doing something annoying, bring it up using an "I" sentence, not a "you" sentence." Instead of saying, "You're always late"...say, "I worry when you're not home on time." Instead of saying "You never listen"... say, "I feel rejected if I think I'm not being heard." Instead of saying, "You're a slob"... say, "I'm extremely sensitive to clutter." "You" sentences make it all the other person's fault.."I" sentences make us partners in responsibility. "You" creates distance... "I" invites closeness! Irving: I get overwhelemed with feelings of inadequacy when someone I love thinks I need instructions on how to talk!! Cathy: You cheat!!