There’s truth and then there’s truth. People who obnoxiously tell you you’re overweight could just as truthfully say, “I want to say something that will hurt you, and your weight is a good excuse.” But they never will admit to themselves that this is true.
So pick a proper truth and say it in a proper way. That’s where tact comes in.
A friend of mine once told me that she was constantly yelling at her daughter to clean up her room. I asked if this had any effect and she said no. So I asked why she did it. (I wasn’t asking in a hurtful way, but in a tone of neutral inquiry - I really did just want to know - and she understood that. She wasn’t offended.) She had no answer. I think she thought it over and tried to figure out for herself what to do. I had helped her see the situation another way - shown her a different truth.
fritzoid
I’m glad some of my friends were honest with me. I began exercising and eating healthier too. Before long I lost a lot of excess pounds. I feel much better for it now and much more energetic. So I thank my friends for being honest, as much as it may have hurt me at the time.
margueritem almost 15 years ago
Ah, a zap at last…
Llewellenbruce almost 15 years ago
Her finger is a dangerous weapon.
Sisyphos almost 15 years ago
The Queen of Zap is in fine form today, and fully charged, too!
Yukoner almost 15 years ago
I wonder if I could do that to my doctor.
Rakkav almost 15 years ago
Or the USMC, since she wears its boxers…which reminds me, Broomie: with a ZAP! like that, why aren’t you in Afghanistan or someplace like that?
ejcapulet almost 15 years ago
At least she didn’t sit on him!
Ooops! Premium Member almost 15 years ago
Did you hear what happened to the last person who offered Broomie advice?
Hmmm…. neither has anyone else.
Jml58 almost 15 years ago
They haven´t found him yet?
GROG Premium Member almost 15 years ago
That’s no way treat someone who’s telling you the truth, Broomie.
David Culver almost 15 years ago
Atta girl, Broomie!
gjsjr41 almost 15 years ago
I’d guess weight isn’t hurting her too much. After all, she is 1500 yrs old.
fritzoid Premium Member almost 15 years ago
BC13: “That’s no way treat someone who’s telling you the truth, Broomie.”
Many people try to cover their unconscienable rudeness with the phrase “Hey, I’m just being honest!” There’s such a thing as tact.
Gaylord’s next line is probably “I’m sorry that you’re offended by what I said”, which would deserve another ZAP!
RinaFarina almost 15 years ago
There’s truth and then there’s truth. People who obnoxiously tell you you’re overweight could just as truthfully say, “I want to say something that will hurt you, and your weight is a good excuse.” But they never will admit to themselves that this is true.
So pick a proper truth and say it in a proper way. That’s where tact comes in.
A friend of mine once told me that she was constantly yelling at her daughter to clean up her room. I asked if this had any effect and she said no. So I asked why she did it. (I wasn’t asking in a hurtful way, but in a tone of neutral inquiry - I really did just want to know - and she understood that. She wasn’t offended.) She had no answer. I think she thought it over and tried to figure out for herself what to do. I had helped her see the situation another way - shown her a different truth.
Rakkav almost 15 years ago
Howard Gardner at Harvard (who studies “multiple intelligences”) has this pithy phrase, relevant to several comments above:
”Ask not whether you are motivated; ask what motivates you.”
(Or others.)
Nagging, I take it, counts as the former. The latter is in a different ballpark.
Ooops! Premium Member almost 15 years ago
A careless word may kindle strife. A cruel word may wreck a life. A timely word may level stress. A loving word may heal and bless.
1148559 almost 15 years ago
Nagging someone about their weight may actually cause them to eat more… and thus gain weight… but the people who nag never think about that.
It’s the same with anorexics… but in reverse.
GROG Premium Member almost 15 years ago
fritzoid I’m glad some of my friends were honest with me. I began exercising and eating healthier too. Before long I lost a lot of excess pounds. I feel much better for it now and much more energetic. So I thank my friends for being honest, as much as it may have hurt me at the time.
Coyoty Premium Member almost 15 years ago
Broomie doesn’t need to go on a diet. Zapping burns calories.
Sherlock Watson almost 15 years ago
Broomie may be fat and obnoxious, but in the third panel Gaylord is smoking!