I just don’t understand why that upsets people. Also we’re somehow supposed to know everyone’s age & marital status. If you cann someone ma’am they scream “I’m not married” or “I’m not that old” the opposite if you say miss. Luckily I’m retired now & don’t have to deal with it anymore.
So I will hang around as long as you let me And never mind standin’ in the rain. No, You don’t have to call me Darlin’, Darlin’. You never even call me by my name I wonder why you don’t call me Why don’t you ever call me by my name. – The Great Merle Haggard
The first time I took my wife shopping, when we were in England, she got a ‘tad’ bit upset when the shop lady called me ‘Luv’ until the next store where a man waited on her and said the exact same thing !
There is no need to call anyone anything. “Are you ready to order, Hon?” and Are you ready to order?" convey the same information. I think the “friendliness” is what offends me. It feels disrespectful to me and makes me feel like I am expected to be friendly in return, when all I want is a chef salad, not a new friend.
Up in Orono, Maine, there is a restaurant where the founder would call everyone “Governor”. So now the restaurant is named Governor’s. A great place to eat.
I don’t mind being called either ma’am or miss. To me they’re interchangeable these days (and after all, Liz Taylor was called Miss even when she was a Mrs.!) I dislike hon, dear, and darlin’, however. Servers and salespeople don’t have that kind of relationship with me. I don’t say anything, though, because I know they mean well. But someday, when a server or salesperson calls me hon I am going to call him or her honeybun or sweetie pie!
Plods with ...™ over 6 years ago
Kinda like the lyrics to a country song.
WDemBlk Premium Member over 6 years ago
I just don’t understand why that upsets people. Also we’re somehow supposed to know everyone’s age & marital status. If you cann someone ma’am they scream “I’m not married” or “I’m not that old” the opposite if you say miss. Luckily I’m retired now & don’t have to deal with it anymore.
rhpii over 6 years ago
So I will hang around as long as you let me And never mind standin’ in the rain. No, You don’t have to call me Darlin’, Darlin’. You never even call me by my name I wonder why you don’t call me Why don’t you ever call me by my name. – The Great Merle Haggard
IndyMan over 6 years ago
The first time I took my wife shopping, when we were in England, she got a ‘tad’ bit upset when the shop lady called me ‘Luv’ until the next store where a man waited on her and said the exact same thing !
Diane Lee Premium Member over 6 years ago
It annoys me too, not enough that I complain about it, but being called “hon” etc by a waitress does influence the tip.
Oge over 6 years ago
Not as irritating as being called “young man” when, at 70, I’m obviously not…young, that is.
abesnake over 6 years ago
Must be a waitress from Bawlmer!
Diane Lee Premium Member over 6 years ago
There is no need to call anyone anything. “Are you ready to order, Hon?” and Are you ready to order?" convey the same information. I think the “friendliness” is what offends me. It feels disrespectful to me and makes me feel like I am expected to be friendly in return, when all I want is a chef salad, not a new friend.
Dr_Fogg over 6 years ago
“You Guys” is an eastern thing. At least the eastern part of NY where I grew up. Why folks get upset about local colloquialism is beyond me.
Billy Yank over 6 years ago
Up in Orono, Maine, there is a restaurant where the founder would call everyone “Governor”. So now the restaurant is named Governor’s. A great place to eat.
Sassy's Mom over 6 years ago
I don’t mind being called either ma’am or miss. To me they’re interchangeable these days (and after all, Liz Taylor was called Miss even when she was a Mrs.!) I dislike hon, dear, and darlin’, however. Servers and salespeople don’t have that kind of relationship with me. I don’t say anything, though, because I know they mean well. But someday, when a server or salesperson calls me hon I am going to call him or her honeybun or sweetie pie!