I told my now-wife very early on not to ask that sort of question of me if she didn’t want my honest answer, because I’m not going to lie to her. I’ve stuck to that. We’re somewhat over 40 years married now, so I guess it’s worked out. I try to be slightly tactful when I think it’s appropriate, but she always gets my genuine, considered opinon.
Although at this point in the Beardo conversation, trying to get HER thoughts on the matter is often a good way to defuse the boobytrap. Neutral reply supporting both possibilities, what’s going through her mind to make her consider going long? That sort of thing. And – honestly? On this it doesn’t matter. She’ll be radiant whichever way she goes; she should just do whatever makes her feel happy, and he should tell her so.
Daeder almost 5 years ago
I like how she’s reaching for a cushion to smother him.
ValancyCarmody Premium Member almost 5 years ago
Anyone in real life who does that kind of manipulative !@#$%, he should dump her. Decent people are honest with each other.
fredd13 almost 5 years ago
I told my now-wife very early on not to ask that sort of question of me if she didn’t want my honest answer, because I’m not going to lie to her. I’ve stuck to that. We’re somewhat over 40 years married now, so I guess it’s worked out. I try to be slightly tactful when I think it’s appropriate, but she always gets my genuine, considered opinon.
Although at this point in the Beardo conversation, trying to get HER thoughts on the matter is often a good way to defuse the boobytrap. Neutral reply supporting both possibilities, what’s going through her mind to make her consider going long? That sort of thing. And – honestly? On this it doesn’t matter. She’ll be radiant whichever way she goes; she should just do whatever makes her feel happy, and he should tell her so.