@NightShade09 She causes the guilt – the same reason most males do not have guilt for going to work each day. It is something that has to be done and we do it and live with the fallout. Many female worry it to death instead of accepting what is.
Even if they don’t need the money, Ellie needs her part time job for her own sanity. Michael could have gotten a ride with someone else … he didn’t NEED his mom to do it. Whenever he really needs her … when he’s sick or hurt … she’ll be there and her co-workers will understand. Yes, her was laying on a guilt-trip!
Interesting conversation you all are having about a PRETEND FAMILY!!! You do know it’s pretend, right? Sometimes I wonder about people who comment on these comic strips.
I do understand why “fiddler78” questions those that comment. But, to me, I see it as a kind of therapy where a discussion of events helps coping with their own reality a little easier. Besides…it’s kind of fun to ad a comment now and then.
Ellie buying into that “guilt trip” is how and why it is there to begin with. can’t have any uppity women doing things. family is more important than women having it all. women “have to” focus on children first. after all if a woman doesn’t do it all, who will do it!!
such stupid and senseless abuse of power, lol not so stupid or senseless keeping women in their place right! lol
@Beleck3: Years later in this strip, April’s friend Anthony (sorry for the newcomers to this strip in mentioning the name of the 3rd child) and his daughter are abandoned by his wife who seems to have no feelings about caring for her offspring.
i sure hope people realize i was being sarcastic about the guilt trip some want to lay on women in particular, uppity women are a real danger to insecure men and women. to actually think women would have the right to live a life without other’s guilt trips. what makes a woman “a woman” or a man “a man”, to live by others definitions is very limiting and completely wrong. unless you choose to live that way.
guilt is for those who choose to buy it. Family is not more important that losing one’s sense of self. unless you choose to “give up” your self for someone else. and that i presume is a great cause of broken relationships, like having family and selling your own sense of self down the river. not all families have these “rigid” views.
family values have been predominately male run, dominated and focused on. with women being an adjunct whose primary purpose is the “have babies and stay barefoot” as the norm.
Just as the sports bar is set up specifically for people to watch games, the comments section of gocomics is specifically set up for people to comment on a comic strip.
As I now approach 60, I realize how much I worried about the meaningless things, and how much I glossed over the important stuff. Your children, given minimum support, will survive. They are extremely versatile. Like a plant. Food, water, some Sun, some care, they will live. But we want them to thrive, and there’s the rub. Enough ‘mothering’, but not smothering. Enough freedom, but not neglect.
Did anyone ever lay on their deathbed, and say, “I should have spent more time at work?” Elly, do what you need to pay the bills. The important ones, housing, food, education, transportation. Then, come home to the kids, tell them you love them, give them a leaf you found on the ground.
They’ll cherish that leaf for the crest of their lives.
I don’t understand why she feels guilty. Her kids have to eat. They need a roof over their heads. Bills need to get paid so parents have to work. If John does not feel guilty going to work every day, there is no reason why she should.
hsawlrae almost 11 years ago
You CAUSED the guilt…they merely reported it.
Agent54 almost 11 years ago
@NightShade09 She causes the guilt – the same reason most males do not have guilt for going to work each day. It is something that has to be done and we do it and live with the fallout. Many female worry it to death instead of accepting what is.
Salinasong almost 11 years ago
Even if they don’t need the money, Ellie needs her part time job for her own sanity. Michael could have gotten a ride with someone else … he didn’t NEED his mom to do it. Whenever he really needs her … when he’s sick or hurt … she’ll be there and her co-workers will understand. Yes, her was laying on a guilt-trip!
Fiddler almost 11 years ago
Interesting conversation you all are having about a PRETEND FAMILY!!! You do know it’s pretend, right? Sometimes I wonder about people who comment on these comic strips.
Egrayjames almost 11 years ago
I do understand why “fiddler78” questions those that comment. But, to me, I see it as a kind of therapy where a discussion of events helps coping with their own reality a little easier. Besides…it’s kind of fun to ad a comment now and then.
Beleck3 almost 11 years ago
Ellie buying into that “guilt trip” is how and why it is there to begin with. can’t have any uppity women doing things. family is more important than women having it all. women “have to” focus on children first. after all if a woman doesn’t do it all, who will do it!!
such stupid and senseless abuse of power, lol not so stupid or senseless keeping women in their place right! lol
what a wonderful comment on society’s “rules”
DixieNormous almost 11 years ago
Ellie do what you have to do !!
Get over it !!!
LightWarriorK almost 11 years ago
Guilt is a woman’s second-best weapon.
arye uygur almost 11 years ago
@Beleck3: Years later in this strip, April’s friend Anthony (sorry for the newcomers to this strip in mentioning the name of the 3rd child) and his daughter are abandoned by his wife who seems to have no feelings about caring for her offspring.
Beleck3 almost 11 years ago
i sure hope people realize i was being sarcastic about the guilt trip some want to lay on women in particular, uppity women are a real danger to insecure men and women. to actually think women would have the right to live a life without other’s guilt trips. what makes a woman “a woman” or a man “a man”, to live by others definitions is very limiting and completely wrong. unless you choose to live that way.
guilt is for those who choose to buy it. Family is not more important that losing one’s sense of self. unless you choose to “give up” your self for someone else. and that i presume is a great cause of broken relationships, like having family and selling your own sense of self down the river. not all families have these “rigid” views.
family values have been predominately male run, dominated and focused on. with women being an adjunct whose primary purpose is the “have babies and stay barefoot” as the norm.
David Rickard Premium Member almost 11 years ago
A conscience is such an annoyance… that’s why I had mine surgically removed!
Burnout70s almost 11 years ago
Wonder if she was a member of Dave Alvin and The Guilty Women
Gretchen's Mom almost 11 years ago
Just as the sports bar is set up specifically for people to watch games, the comments section of gocomics is specifically set up for people to comment on a comic strip.
EXACTLY!!!!!
davbart92663 almost 11 years ago
To all of the Elly’s in the world;
As I now approach 60, I realize how much I worried about the meaningless things, and how much I glossed over the important stuff. Your children, given minimum support, will survive. They are extremely versatile. Like a plant. Food, water, some Sun, some care, they will live. But we want them to thrive, and there’s the rub. Enough ‘mothering’, but not smothering. Enough freedom, but not neglect.
Did anyone ever lay on their deathbed, and say, “I should have spent more time at work?” Elly, do what you need to pay the bills. The important ones, housing, food, education, transportation. Then, come home to the kids, tell them you love them, give them a leaf you found on the ground.
They’ll cherish that leaf for the crest of their lives.
westny77 almost 11 years ago
Poor Ellie. Why can’t you be happy. Parents and children have a way of putting you on a guilt trip. Go write to Ann Landers Ellie she can help you.
rowena28 Premium Member almost 11 years ago
I don’t understand why she feels guilty. Her kids have to eat. They need a roof over their heads. Bills need to get paid so parents have to work. If John does not feel guilty going to work every day, there is no reason why she should.