lightenup - when the child says “no” … a light spank on the butt, and repeating what you said before is what works best … or, so I have found. You don’t spank them hard, just lightly and without anger … this bleeep about NOT hitting kids is BS. I was spanked when I screwed up - going to the river, running someone over on my bike - and I haven’t grown up to be abusive to other people.
The spanking isn’t necessary with a two-year-old. They may say no, but you can show them yes without spanking! Sometimes they’re really just trying out words, and you can hardly fault them for that!
for all the “no’s” Lizzie is yelling, Elly is still doing what needs doing, and clearly showing the kids who is in charge. looks like the right way to handle it from my point of view.
I spanked my kids when they were too young to understand delayed consequences, but only when it was obvious they were testing who was the boss. And then, I only spanked on the buttocks or upper thigh (if they had on diapers), never ever hit them anywhere else. I think once they get old enough to understand the connection between other punishments (grounding, etc.) and their misdeeds, other forms of punishments are more effective than spanking. Once you can have a dialogue with a child, it is better to discuss the reasons behind your decisions, so that when they are older, they can make better decisions themselves.
Mandster over 15 years ago
That works with my sibs too…
ejcapulet over 15 years ago
Ah, the terrible twos.
Wildmustang1262 over 15 years ago
ejcapulet said, about 1 hour ago
Ah, the terrible twos.
Yeaahhh! OF COURSE, Famous Terrible Twos!! LOLs!
gobblingup Premium Member over 15 years ago
How long are the Terrible Twos supposed to last? Mine are 4 and 6 and still say NO all the time.
Jaws2z over 15 years ago
My ex-wife NEVER grew out of the “saying NO’ stage.
Yukoneric over 15 years ago
Two is the new ONE!!!!
alondra over 15 years ago
Again, I’m so thankful I don’t have kids.
lewisbower over 15 years ago
Kids are thankful they don’t have me
bald over 15 years ago
one of my son’s didn’t outgrow the terrible twos til he was 18
Allan CB Premium Member over 15 years ago
lightenup - when the child says “no” … a light spank on the butt, and repeating what you said before is what works best … or, so I have found. You don’t spank them hard, just lightly and without anger … this bleeep about NOT hitting kids is BS. I was spanked when I screwed up - going to the river, running someone over on my bike - and I haven’t grown up to be abusive to other people.
csscougar over 15 years ago
The spanking isn’t necessary with a two-year-old. They may say no, but you can show them yes without spanking! Sometimes they’re really just trying out words, and you can hardly fault them for that!
ninmas over 15 years ago
HEH HEH! my sisters always fought and then my dad would get mad at them…… i always looked good!
yyyguy over 15 years ago
for all the “no’s” Lizzie is yelling, Elly is still doing what needs doing, and clearly showing the kids who is in charge. looks like the right way to handle it from my point of view.
Silverpearl over 15 years ago
No comment. Been there. Done that.
Nelly55 over 15 years ago
that’s what I loved about the early FBOFW. Micheal and Elizabeth were the same age as my son and daughter. I could really relate to it all
ahhh, memories!
Smiley Rmom over 15 years ago
I spanked my kids when they were too young to understand delayed consequences, but only when it was obvious they were testing who was the boss. And then, I only spanked on the buttocks or upper thigh (if they had on diapers), never ever hit them anywhere else. I think once they get old enough to understand the connection between other punishments (grounding, etc.) and their misdeeds, other forms of punishments are more effective than spanking. Once you can have a dialogue with a child, it is better to discuss the reasons behind your decisions, so that when they are older, they can make better decisions themselves.
Wildmustang1262 over 15 years ago
RRAmom That’s right! I agree. That is more likely to have disciplines and rewards.
Hey, I am so glad I don’t have annnnny kids! Whew!
kfaatz925 over 15 years ago
I don’t know - all this maybe should make me glad I don’t have kids (or likely ever will), but… sigh… I still wish I did…
luckylouie over 15 years ago
The definition of a teenager – take the Terrible Twos, multiply by eight, and add a driver’s license.
Dry and Dusty Premium Member over 15 years ago
I don’t think Joy would care to join you, but it doesn’t hurt to ask!! LOL
DawnAvril over 15 years ago
(((RMom))) and sorry I noticed but never said anything - was away at the time. But we miss you!
The Duke 1 over 15 years ago
Joy, I didn’t get it either but……….
gobblingup Premium Member over 15 years ago
Oh, it’s not bad enough for spanking. It’s just things like “go pick up your toys”, which a NO gets those toys taken away.
marvee over 15 years ago
I was wondering when Michael started calling Elizabeth “lizard breath”.
coffeeturtle over 15 years ago
Mom has a lot of patience.
I would mix it up a bit and say, “well, how about some ice-cream?” and see if the baby isn’t just skipping tracks saying “NO” all of the time. ;-)
HerGrammie over 15 years ago
My granddaughter is in this stage now only her “NO!” has some screaming tantrums wrapped around it. Poor daughter is developing an eye twitch. o.O