So now Christopher is riding; got his wish, but now Mom’s hugging and carrying THE BABY. Anybody want to guess what comes next? Like maybe "(squeal) carry ME!! Don’t wanna ride! or something like that?
I agree that giving in is what causes the problems. Spanking doesn’t solve problems or teach discipline; being a strong parent does. I never gave into any of the whining. I made my kids walk everywhere as soon as they hit 2 years old. None of that double stroller nonsense.
A spank is sometimes appropriate, but generally not as a knee-jerk response. Giving in to whining or fits is NEVER okay, though a good parent knows when to give in when requests are reasonable and reasonably made.
My daughter once observed a temper tantrum getting results and so tried it herself. I simply picked her up, covered her mouth, and carried her out to the car. There I said, “That didn’t work, did it?” She agreed it didn’t and we never had that problem again. A simple, “Do you want to go to the car?” was sufficient. Minimum violence.
Okay kiddo you have one minute to stop throwing a fit. If you are not done in that time, you will be sent to time out and then since you had the energy to throw a fit, you have the energy to do work. (Then I’d assign 3 or 4 age apporpriate chores, for exapmle helping mommy fold clean laundry. He would fold socks.) No kid wants to do extra chores…I know I didn’t.
This is the time to remind him that being a big brother has it’s priviledges. HE can swing on the swings at the park. He can run fast and he can give his mommy a big hug. And he can have a hot chocolate when they get home. All of which this new little baby can’t do. That likely will get him to think about the new little baby is a much diiferent way :) [And avoid a spanking as well.]
I have a cousin who stayed in diapers and started talking baby talk when his baby brother was born. It’s called: infantile regression. They grow out of it.
And so it begins . . . Christopher has now learned that all he has to do is whine and cry (and maybe even throw in a “Now that you’ve got a NEW baby, you don’t love me anymore!” for good measure to really amp up the guilt factor!) and he’ll be able to get anything he wants, anytime he wants it! Way to go, Mom!
hsawlrae about 13 years ago
WHOP !!!
bluskies about 13 years ago
So now Christopher is riding; got his wish, but now Mom’s hugging and carrying THE BABY. Anybody want to guess what comes next? Like maybe "(squeal) carry ME!! Don’t wanna ride! or something like that?
psychlady about 13 years ago
Oh yeah, let the kid do whatever he wants! And we wonder where this sense of entitlement comes from.
alan.gurka about 13 years ago
Only if mom allows it. Tell Chris he’s too big for the carriage and he needs to walk to exercise.
teddyr about 13 years ago
Old axiom: A pat on the back is good, but sometimes a little further down gets better results.
mroy1160 Premium Member about 13 years ago
Sibling rivalry starts as soon as the older one figures out they’re not the “baby of the family” anymore…trust me on this one!
gobblingup Premium Member about 13 years ago
I agree that giving in is what causes the problems. Spanking doesn’t solve problems or teach discipline; being a strong parent does. I never gave into any of the whining. I made my kids walk everywhere as soon as they hit 2 years old. None of that double stroller nonsense.
pigtimes about 13 years ago
Childhood is very short!
Allan CB Premium Member about 13 years ago
Swat his behind, and tell him no sweets for that day, unless he behaves, and helps push the carraige like a ‘big boy’.
Kydex29 about 13 years ago
A spank is sometimes appropriate, but generally not as a knee-jerk response. Giving in to whining or fits is NEVER okay, though a good parent knows when to give in when requests are reasonable and reasonably made.
astar15 about 13 years ago
I don’t think they are, man.
hippogriff about 13 years ago
My daughter once observed a temper tantrum getting results and so tried it herself. I simply picked her up, covered her mouth, and carried her out to the car. There I said, “That didn’t work, did it?” She agreed it didn’t and we never had that problem again. A simple, “Do you want to go to the car?” was sufficient. Minimum violence.
redarmrest about 13 years ago
Okay kiddo you have one minute to stop throwing a fit. If you are not done in that time, you will be sent to time out and then since you had the energy to throw a fit, you have the energy to do work. (Then I’d assign 3 or 4 age apporpriate chores, for exapmle helping mommy fold clean laundry. He would fold socks.) No kid wants to do extra chores…I know I didn’t.
OmaBecky about 13 years ago
This is the time to remind him that being a big brother has it’s priviledges. HE can swing on the swings at the park. He can run fast and he can give his mommy a big hug. And he can have a hot chocolate when they get home. All of which this new little baby can’t do. That likely will get him to think about the new little baby is a much diiferent way :) [And avoid a spanking as well.]
iced tea about 13 years ago
I have a cousin who stayed in diapers and started talking baby talk when his baby brother was born. It’s called: infantile regression. They grow out of it.
meika86 about 13 years ago
All that was needed was a good, stern NO. IF a temper tantrum ensued, a good solid smack on the behind would nip that in the bud.
Gretchen's Mom about 13 years ago
And so it begins . . . Christopher has now learned that all he has to do is whine and cry (and maybe even throw in a “Now that you’ve got a NEW baby, you don’t love me anymore!” for good measure to really amp up the guilt factor!) and he’ll be able to get anything he wants, anytime he wants it! Way to go, Mom!