Arlo and Janis by Jimmy Johnson for May 11, 2012

Arlo, that’s not really the confidence builder he was looking for….

After 30 + years I am still weighing that question, but enjoying the ride.

me too

Rusty, I think it’s the perfect answer.Too many people overthink everything and spend their lives running after impossible perfection.

Arlo’s few words manage to say, “Don’t freak out just because you’re not 117% certain.Just follow your gut and DO it… and one of these days you’ll realise how right you were.”

Got married after knowing her two months. Made fifty years. Still not sure it was “perfect”, but not worrying about it.

Love is a choice to put the other’s needs and desires ahead of your own. That’s not fashionable in our society, which is one of the main reasons IMHO why the divorce rate is so high. No, life won’t be perfect; there will be tight money, crappy jobs, and all other manner of stresses on your relationship. But if you choose to make your spouse more important than you, and your spouse reciprocates, it will all work out. That’s what I hear in Arlo’s response.

Oaklief-And if you both make that your goal, you both win.

Too many today try to find the “perfect person for them” but no one is perfect. Enjoy the one you have and work (yes I said work) at it to make it good.

If you have to work at it, its not right and its time to RUN.

Having the person whom you are too also being your best friend, the one you can depend on, trust completely and not fear of trouble is a great gift of life..

Gene my boy, marriage is WORK.

I was lucky enough to meet my wife when I was 41 years old. I knew within days. Twenty-five years later we’re still two giggly teenagers and it’s never been hard. Everybody is different.

Everything Oakleif said. In spades. With a cherry on top. And a brass band playing.

It isn’t all about finding the right person; over half of it is being the right person.

Awesome! Profound, moving, truthful. An instant A&J classic.

I read this one to my wife over breakfast this morning (which is one of the signs of a good A&J, the other sign of a good A&J being that I would NEVER read it to her!). Anyway, today I wanted to laugh while reading it to her, but I had a little tiny tear in my eye because Jimmy was so dead-on right.

Been married to mine for 36.5 years, if she ain’t it, I ain’t gonna get it!

So very true but, the tragedy is that even after 28 years, you may find out you were wrong. Not that those years were wasted, but you may slowly come to the realization that any more time together wouldn’t really be all that pleasant.

My husband was 43 and I was 41 when we got married (the first time for both of us). I spent the first 41 years not wanting to be married at all. It’s been 16 years and and I don’t even want to think about life without him. If he didn’t love me, I would still want him as my friend. That’s love. My brother’s philosophy is “Love flies out the door when the bill fly in!”

You can’t know for many years, because the right person is the person who can be with you in adjusting for all the different people you become throughout the years. Someone who can do that with you is always the right person. The boy knows all he can know and all he needs to know. She’s a good mother and good to her father. That core will not change.

I knew when I met mine. He was natural, not put-on, no game-playing or posturing, just plain folks. It was almost like talking with a male version of myself. Neither of us is perfact, but it’s been 51 years and ten months, so we must be doing something right.

I knew my husband wasn’t perfect. I married him b/c I love fixer-uppers! haahaa Just hope he doesn’t read this! Been married for 19 yrs this Aug., loving every min.

Love is a choice, not a feeling. Feelings can fade, but choosing day in and day out to love this man/woman makes for a long and happy marriage. A viewpoint far to rare in our society.

I knew she was the one for me, because she told me so.

Single is good.

My wife asks that all the time. She asks, “Can I ask you a question?” And I answer, “You certainly can’t ask me an answer.”

Finding the right person can be like suddenly finding yourself at home.It might be a home previously unfamiliar to you,you might not have even realized you were looking for it, but when you find it, you know you are home.