The cartoon here addresses the problem with trying to build up SELF ESTEEM (a worthy objective) but using FLATTERY (a cheap counterfeit alternative).
Confusing flattery and legitimate self-esteem fails to differentiate between genuine self-esteem, which he dismisses as the weakness of “soft-hearted parents and soft-headed educators,” and the hollow emptiness of cheap flattery. Flattery is frivolous and superficial; a feel-good diversion whose phoniness is easily recognized and which causes others to feel degraded, if that is all they are worth. In contrast, sincerely identifying and building upon real skills, talents and achievements is like a genuine compliment that calls attention to qualities one legitimately admires in another person, in a way that rings true and reminds the recipient of the qualities that he knows best reflect the better angels of his nature. Flattery cheapens and degrades. Genuine self-esteem, built on real abilities and real achievements, resonates with the soul and forms the foundation on which to expand our best attributes.
The best educators, parents and coaches know the difference.
The cartoon here addresses the problem with trying to build up SELF ESTEEM (a worthy objective) but using FLATTERY (a cheap counterfeit alternative).
Confusing flattery and legitimate self-esteem fails to differentiate between genuine self-esteem, which he dismisses as the weakness of “soft-hearted parents and soft-headed educators,” and the hollow emptiness of cheap flattery. Flattery is frivolous and superficial; a feel-good diversion whose phoniness is easily recognized and which causes others to feel degraded, if that is all they are worth. In contrast, sincerely identifying and building upon real skills, talents and achievements is like a genuine compliment that calls attention to qualities one legitimately admires in another person, in a way that rings true and reminds the recipient of the qualities that he knows best reflect the better angels of his nature. Flattery cheapens and degrades. Genuine self-esteem, built on real abilities and real achievements, resonates with the soul and forms the foundation on which to expand our best attributes.
The best educators, parents and coaches know the difference.