Tom the Dancing Bug by Ruben Bolling for September 03, 2010

You continue to amaze! Have you been lurking around my marriage?

Many years ago there was a “quotations mirror” at a bar I used to go to to wash my brain. One of the quotes read “If you don’t leave me alone I’ll go find someone who will.”

Heh. Please do your art forever.

I think these kids have a pretty good chance.

I am in a happy marriage because I actually waited to find the right person, (which took until age 40!), and we both took the effort to find out who the F we were and what we wanted before we tied the not. But as a young man, with society telling us what to do, all these thoughts ran through our heads for sure. I know this happens every day (ah 50% divorce rate? Hello!) So sure, its funny. But its also a comment on the utter lack of communication between the sexes and societal pressures foisted upon us on a daily basis to conform to societal expectations, (as well as those of good ole Mom! and sometimes Dad too, esp. for the daughters out there). So lets laugh, but maybe some will take it to heart and actually try to communicate their wants and needs with a prospective partner and mature to the point they’re happy alone before trying to be happy with someone else. Time will tell.

kinda sad commentary

This isn’t a comic, it’s a documentary.

Well this really does explain the high divorce rate. The reason for the hgh divorce rate is not that a divorce is to easy to get. The problem is that it is too easy to get married. Half of the people married should not be married to each other or maybe even married at all.

At last, the truth is out!

And no, it never becomes “bearable”.

Every kid (out-of-nest to about thirty) needs to spend at least six months just living solo, and celibate, and get to be comfortable in his/her own skin and liking him/herself (and will have lotsa energy left for art projects or whatever.) Then see about finding a mate. Really! There’s no rush. There are already plenty of kids.

It all seems pretty normal to me.

I would love to read his thoughts waking up next to her after several years of marriage. (Something like “What was I thinking?)

Can we ban marriage? Here’s a fun idea: Tax marriage (as if it isn’t taxing enough already, har har). Oh, not the Marriage License Tax rate – I mean tax the ever-lovin’ firetruck out of it.

That’ll keep “conservative” marriages at a minimum, “gay” marriages will go up (though I have no idea why) – and the rest of us will just plain be happier.

Funny and insightful, but I have to speak up for marriage after reading most of the comments. While marriage isn’t for some (and people can choose the wrong person), my wife has been my best friend and a generous lover for 39 + years. Without her my life would have been sh–.

It’s easy:

Want kids = marriage = no romance, but kids are great.

Don’t want kids = why bother getting married? Really?

Never been in to ceremonies- two great kids-same man for twenty long years. Divorce still sucks. What is wrong with this picture?

Is this a commentary on marriage as much as an observation that people sometimes want to fall in love so bad they say things they don’t mean? Or that they want to feel a way they don’t? Or that we have romantic expectations about love that aren’t very realistic?

On the other hand, is it so bad to have an intimate companion who you can totally count on? Even if you can’t get around the fact that running a family is inescapably kind of like running a business?

No further questions!

Now you say it’s time we moved in together, And raised a family of our own, you and me, Well that’s the way I always heard it should be, You want to marry me…

Tahnk you for restoring my faith in your single-minded (?)mania, Chikuku!