When you’re married, you learn to pick your battles…
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That’s right, and I think long marriages like mine is beginning to be is based a lot on this and compromise. I think Elly should leave John alone about the shirt since he was only going out to fix the fence. If he wanted to wear that outfit in public (especially if I was with him) it would be different.
My wife often says, “I hope you’re not going to go out wearing THAT!”
Then she asks me, “Does this purse look OK with these shoes?” Or “Which earrings should I wear with this?”
I have wisecrack answers for the first (but of course I always change), but I’m forced to invent an opinion for the second even though I don’t know what I’m talking about.
There is something going on there. I haven’t quite figured out what it is. It’s sort of fun, but scary, too.
I never told my ex what to wear, not that I can remember–in fact the only person I said it to was a dear friend with a bad (red) sunburn who wanted to wear a yellow green shirt. I thought it really looked badly and I told him that. Mostly I don’t question anyone’s clothes, since I dress for myself 90% of the time. :)
Ray C, the reason your wife is asking you is most likely because she wants you to like how she looks. By including you in choosing her accessories she’s trying to make sure that you think she looks nice.
My ex only told me what to wear if I a) asked, or b) she was going out in public with me, lol. Around the house or working outside she didn’t really care, and I am sure SOME of the things I did wear were an emberisment. I do agree though pick your fights and you will mostly end up a happier person, LOL
ejcapulet: Very encouraging. I think you may be right.
As to what I wear, she feels somewhat responsible. Thus, even if I’m just going to work she wants me to look good, feeling that it reflects on her.
When a news anchor wears the wrong tie or a shirt that doesn’t go with the coat, she says, “Doesn’t that man have a wife?” She’s not blaming the man for not knowing how to dress, she’s blaming his wife for not setting him straight.
Women are fearfully and wonderfully made!
JanCin, I agree wholeheartedly! My husband and I do that, too. I also agree that Elly shouldn’t have bugged Jon about what to wear to paint the fence. After all, he probably got paint on it, so taking it from the “wear me in public” drawer!
I thought Elly was silly getting annoyed at what he was going to wear to fix the fence but regarding some peoples comments about being insulted if your spouse wanted to help you look your best, pleeeze! If you can’t trust your beloved to want what is best for you than you should just be single, like Ted, go live with mommy.
One of the toughest people I’ve ever known was my martial arts instructor. He held three black belts and was a member of The Special Response team of the county police force. After a class one day I asked him would it be okay for a private lesson in two weeks to which he pointed to his wife and said: “It’s okay if ‘the boss’ says it’s okay.”
HeckleMeElmo over 15 years ago
… so you can be HAPPY, like ME, John!
ejcapulet over 15 years ago
Married men do NOT need advice from their single friends.
yyyguy over 15 years ago
as a “single friend” i have to agree. married guys have WAY different lives than i lead.
hank197857 over 15 years ago
i had a pastor who said that it was alright to be henpecked as long as you’re pecked by the right hen. still, i can dress myself. thank you very much!
lewisbower over 15 years ago
What’s wrong with it ,dear? I wore it all through college
Allison Nunn Premium Member over 15 years ago
The thought of a man changing seems to have stunned the loquacious Ted into silence…. Thank you John for that!!
TumblersBlue over 15 years ago
OOOOOOOHHHH!!!! Can you imagine Elly’s reaction if she heard Ted? Methinks he would need the services of a fellow GP!
arsmall over 15 years ago
When you’re married, you learn to pick your battles…
prasrinivara over 15 years ago
On the nail, hank197857 and somebodyshort!
green_engineer over 15 years ago
“Women marry men hoping they will change. Men marry women hoping they will not. So each is inevitably disappointed.” - A. Einstein
alondra over 15 years ago
arsmall said, about 2 hours ago
When you’re married, you learn to pick your battles…
~~~
That’s right, and I think long marriages like mine is beginning to be is based a lot on this and compromise. I think Elly should leave John alone about the shirt since he was only going out to fix the fence. If he wanted to wear that outfit in public (especially if I was with him) it would be different.
Ted as usual is a j-a-c-k-a-s-s.
pearlandpeach over 15 years ago
colorblind could be a reason for strange dressing….
Ray_C over 15 years ago
My wife often says, “I hope you’re not going to go out wearing THAT!” Then she asks me, “Does this purse look OK with these shoes?” Or “Which earrings should I wear with this?”
I have wisecrack answers for the first (but of course I always change), but I’m forced to invent an opinion for the second even though I don’t know what I’m talking about.
There is something going on there. I haven’t quite figured out what it is. It’s sort of fun, but scary, too.
pibfan868 over 15 years ago
I never told my ex what to wear, not that I can remember–in fact the only person I said it to was a dear friend with a bad (red) sunburn who wanted to wear a yellow green shirt. I thought it really looked badly and I told him that. Mostly I don’t question anyone’s clothes, since I dress for myself 90% of the time. :)
Allan CB Premium Member over 15 years ago
Ted choke on a peanut!
Nelly55 over 15 years ago
I’ll bet Ted’s mommy NEVER tells him what to wear…..
;-)
ejcapulet over 15 years ago
Ray C, the reason your wife is asking you is most likely because she wants you to like how she looks. By including you in choosing her accessories she’s trying to make sure that you think she looks nice.
The_Ol_Goaler over 15 years ago
I do what Mrs. Goaler tells me to do… because she’s most often RIGHT!!!!!
We’ve been using “Yes, Dear” as a signal to each other for 28 years now… it must be working! ;-)
JanLC over 15 years ago
“Yes Dear” works well in my marriage. We both use it.
imrobert over 15 years ago
If I am remembering correctly, it turns out this guy is a bachelor.
Comic-Nut over 15 years ago
greenengineer’s quote of ol’ Albert is dead on!
gab4x4 over 15 years ago
My ex only told me what to wear if I a) asked, or b) she was going out in public with me, lol. Around the house or working outside she didn’t really care, and I am sure SOME of the things I did wear were an emberisment. I do agree though pick your fights and you will mostly end up a happier person, LOL
Ray_C over 15 years ago
ejcapulet: Very encouraging. I think you may be right. As to what I wear, she feels somewhat responsible. Thus, even if I’m just going to work she wants me to look good, feeling that it reflects on her. When a news anchor wears the wrong tie or a shirt that doesn’t go with the coat, she says, “Doesn’t that man have a wife?” She’s not blaming the man for not knowing how to dress, she’s blaming his wife for not setting him straight. Women are fearfully and wonderfully made!
Wildmustang1262 over 15 years ago
Over my dead body, no body tells me what to wear something on me.
coffeeturtle over 15 years ago
LOL doctortoon!! :-)
Dewey Premium Member over 15 years ago
If a wife tells her husband how to dress he has been downgraded from husband to accessory.
lfanterickson over 15 years ago
JanCin, I agree wholeheartedly! My husband and I do that, too. I also agree that Elly shouldn’t have bugged Jon about what to wear to paint the fence. After all, he probably got paint on it, so taking it from the “wear me in public” drawer!
kjhesser over 15 years ago
I thought Elly was silly getting annoyed at what he was going to wear to fix the fence but regarding some peoples comments about being insulted if your spouse wanted to help you look your best, pleeeze! If you can’t trust your beloved to want what is best for you than you should just be single, like Ted, go live with mommy.
jmworacle over 15 years ago
One of the toughest people I’ve ever known was my martial arts instructor. He held three black belts and was a member of The Special Response team of the county police force. After a class one day I asked him would it be okay for a private lesson in two weeks to which he pointed to his wife and said: “It’s okay if ‘the boss’ says it’s okay.”
bald over 15 years ago
i really don’t think ted could get a second date with his own left hand
Hoomi over 15 years ago
channels Tim Hawkins
If you’re a man who wants to have A long and happy life, These are the things you don’t say to your wife.
johnnydoc5 over 15 years ago
Norm, you got something against women, or are you just bitter? I find that making others happy, can be rewarding in itself.
Shikamoo Premium Member over 15 years ago
I wear the pants in my family. My cat won’t wear them, so someone has to!
hildigunnurr Premium Member over 15 years ago
Burgundy, yeah, let’s all not do that!