I owe an apology to my friends here and to Georgia. I made a comment here yesterday, April 28, that I should not have made and I am really sorry. I deleted that comment.
I know it is no excuse, but yesterday, April 28, was the anniversary of my divorce from my first husband, that I thought I was going to grow old with and have a family. I’ve been in other relationships, but have never had kids.
Georgia, I know you’re going through a hard time and I am so sorry if I said anything that hurt you. Love always! ❤️
You can never tell what another person is feeling. Address your own feelings. Good or bad, it’s O.K. To feel them they help you grow and prepare for the future. Sometimes you need to feel the grief, wallow in anguish for a while before you pick yourself up and move on.(Yeah, I’m processing a family tragedy right now, thanks for letting me babble)
My cat, Angel, just guided me from my bathroom to the front room! She’s never done that before! I’ve been having trouble walking lately and I think she is sensing that. She’s been more attentive to me lately. Does that mean my time is near to death, and she senses it?
Oh, if only Tommy with his gentle wisdom had been there for so many of us, in our past heartaches that we brought on ourselves by our poor choices. What a kind and wise, friend and brother. I know I speak for many of us Orbsters when I say — oh, hold on, I see toebeans! SQUEEE!
Many years ago, I was dating my college Beau and he asked me to marry him. I was totally smitten with him so of course I said yes. After 5 years together, my professional life was pulling me in a different direction and I had gotten tired of waiting for him to set a date so I broke it off.
That was a very painful decision that haunted me for years, even after I married and started a family. When ever I thought of him I tried to think of him with a successful career and a loving family. Eventually I accepted that if it was meant to be that it would have been.
Fast forward 40+ years. For some reason he had been on my mind again. I Googled him and came across his obituary. I looked for mention of a family and found none. There was a mention of a female companion but apparently he never married. It finally made sense! He was a commitment-phobe. I felt so sorry for him. He missed out on a lot of the best parts of life. Most of all, I was finally able to make peace with the past.
My point is that relationships = pain. We often internalize that pain but the person at fault hurt themselves the most. We have to examine our own part in the relationship and we can make the most progress when we are able to forgive them and ourselves as well. All of this takes time and a lot of emotional work but the pay off is worth it. I have peace and more self confidence that at any other point in my life.
If you read all of this, and any part applied to you, I wish you peace and healing. Don’t give up and keep moving forward. You will have set backs. Just pick up where you left off and keep moving forward. (((HUGS!)))
uncle snipe 7 months ago
Tommy is always the best. Such a sweet, fluffy, loveable guy.
Le'letha Premium Member 7 months ago
Words of wisdom from a true friend.
Aspen_Bell 7 months ago
Good old sensible Tommy. ❤
FreihEitner Premium Member 7 months ago
I believe Wesley might feel cheesy.
emiesty Premium Member 7 months ago
Tommy and Puck should open a counselling and mediation practice together.
Ricky Bennett 7 months ago
My Maine Cooon wouldn’t read the letter, he would eat it!
Sue Ellen 7 months ago
To paraphrase, Helen Reddy “Yes, Tommy is wise, but it’s wisdom born of pain.”
Robin Harwood 7 months ago
We know how she feels. Why ask?
Olive O'Sudden 7 months ago
She should feel completely cheesed off.♥
dmah Premium Member 7 months ago
I just realized that Sophie is wearing a Blueberry Beret, the kind you find in a second hand store, and if it was warm she wouldn’t wear much more! ;D
kaylin 7 months ago
I owe an apology to my friends here and to Georgia. I made a comment here yesterday, April 28, that I should not have made and I am really sorry. I deleted that comment.
I know it is no excuse, but yesterday, April 28, was the anniversary of my divorce from my first husband, that I thought I was going to grow old with and have a family. I’ve been in other relationships, but have never had kids.
Georgia, I know you’re going through a hard time and I am so sorry if I said anything that hurt you. Love always! ❤️
WelshRat Premium Member 7 months ago
Sophie’s literally on a red eye flight of the emotions.
doralyn 7 months ago
Such a thoughtful question, Tommy!
BarbaraKrooss 7 months ago
With apologies to Alfred, Lord Tennyson:
I envy not his cheesy food,
That he extols upon that page,
(For I am not a tyrophage
And I don’t think it tastes that good.)
I envy not the naps he takes
When I am never taking mine.
Unfetter’d by a sense of time,
That foxy weasel never wakes.
Nor should I count myself as blest,
His heart had never plighted troth
I did the loving for us both;
(He’s really just a stinky pest.)
I hold it true, whate’er befall;
I feel it, when I know I’ve lost;
’Tis better to have loved a louse
than never to have loved at all.
ElliottB.C.Rennie 7 months ago
You can never tell what another person is feeling. Address your own feelings. Good or bad, it’s O.K. To feel them they help you grow and prepare for the future. Sometimes you need to feel the grief, wallow in anguish for a while before you pick yourself up and move on.(Yeah, I’m processing a family tragedy right now, thanks for letting me babble)
FreyjaRN Premium Member 7 months ago
Is Sophie doing better? She seems so.
Lady Bri 7 months ago
She outta be looking at the handsome, irresistible meow who’s right in bloody FRONT of her!
The Humanist 7 months ago
Tommy reminds me of Gabriel Iglesias is it just a coincidence?
Jacob Mattingly 7 months ago
The most important thing
kaylin 7 months ago
Tommy is so cute! And Sophie is so pretty! ❤️
kaylin 7 months ago
My cat, Angel, just guided me from my bathroom to the front room! She’s never done that before! I’ve been having trouble walking lately and I think she is sensing that. She’s been more attentive to me lately. Does that mean my time is near to death, and she senses it?
Jungle Empress 7 months ago
“Cheese”? That could mean anything!
cb8ty 7 months ago
How special to be loved by Tommy! And where is Gutter???
rs0204 Premium Member 7 months ago
Emotions are both a blessing and a curse.
Katzen1415 7 months ago
Good job getting to the heart of the matter, Tommy. Sophie needs to think of what’s best for her.
I AM CARTOON LADY! 7 months ago
A -Tommy Hug, wouldn’t hurt, either!
ladykat 7 months ago
Sophie, take stock of your feelings at this moment and talk with Tommy. He’s there for you and will give you sound advice.
DorseyBelle 7 months ago
Oh, if only Tommy with his gentle wisdom had been there for so many of us, in our past heartaches that we brought on ourselves by our poor choices. What a kind and wise, friend and brother. I know I speak for many of us Orbsters when I say — oh, hold on, I see toebeans! SQUEEE!
Daltongang Premium Member 7 months ago
The road is long
With many a winding turn
That leads us to who knows where, who knows where
But I’m strong
Strong enough to carry her
She ain’t heavy, she’s my sister
So on we go
Her welfare is of my concern
No burden is she to bear
We’ll get there
For I know
She would not encumber me
She ain’t heavy, he’s my sister
If I’m laden at all
I’m laden with sadness
That Sophies heart
Isn’t filled with the gladness
Of love for one another
It’s a long, long road
From which there is no return
While we’re on the way to there
Why not share?
And the load
Doesn’t weigh me down at all
She ain’t heavy, she’s my sister
She’s my sister
She ain’t heavy, she’s my sister
She ain’t heavy, she’s my sister
bonita.eley 7 months ago
Tommy, always so wise!
Susan Rollinson Premium Member 7 months ago
Sophie, you have the best boy cat right next too you!
stairsteppublishing 7 months ago
BCN readers are truly family, caring, loving as the above responses to Kaylin prove.Thank you all.
stepzla 7 months ago
Many years ago, I was dating my college Beau and he asked me to marry him. I was totally smitten with him so of course I said yes. After 5 years together, my professional life was pulling me in a different direction and I had gotten tired of waiting for him to set a date so I broke it off.
That was a very painful decision that haunted me for years, even after I married and started a family. When ever I thought of him I tried to think of him with a successful career and a loving family. Eventually I accepted that if it was meant to be that it would have been.
Fast forward 40+ years. For some reason he had been on my mind again. I Googled him and came across his obituary. I looked for mention of a family and found none. There was a mention of a female companion but apparently he never married. It finally made sense! He was a commitment-phobe. I felt so sorry for him. He missed out on a lot of the best parts of life. Most of all, I was finally able to make peace with the past.
My point is that relationships = pain. We often internalize that pain but the person at fault hurt themselves the most. We have to examine our own part in the relationship and we can make the most progress when we are able to forgive them and ourselves as well. All of this takes time and a lot of emotional work but the pay off is worth it. I have peace and more self confidence that at any other point in my life.
If you read all of this, and any part applied to you, I wish you peace and healing. Don’t give up and keep moving forward. You will have set backs. Just pick up where you left off and keep moving forward. (((HUGS!)))
Jon Premium Member 7 months ago
Wesley has informed me that the lyrics I posted yesterday were wrong. So herewith, those he provided me with:
Bleu, bleu, my cheese is bleu.
Bleu is my cheese, not orange goo.
Brie, Brie, my cheese is brie.
Brie is my cheese; I eat it all too.
Cream, cheese, I’m happy to
Eat dairy whenever I do.
Miss Mina 7 months ago
Tommy is as full of caring as he is of floof.
marilynnbyerly 7 months ago
Children’s author Sandra Boynton has a great song called “I love you more than cheese.” It’s sung by a mouse to another mouse. It’s on YouTube.
seah 7 months ago
sophie looks especially cute today! and yes, finally! catch up with your own feelings girl! I’m sure wesley’s fine, but wbu???
Red Bird 7 months ago
Nobody deserves a good friend like Tommy. He’s a real sweetheart!
Fennec! at the Disco 7 months ago
Tommy asking a real question!
scaeva Premium Member 7 months ago
Sophie needs to ferret out her feelings …
She’s gonna wash that ferret
right out of her fur.
She’s gonna wash that ferret
right out of her fur.
And leave him far away!
Fennec! at the Disco 7 months ago
Oh, and the cute little blue heart on Sophie’s blouse in the last panel!
willie_mctell 7 months ago
I love Sophie’s eyes.
scaeva Premium Member 7 months ago
OT: Scaeva vs Visiting Chair
sisterea 7 months ago
Yea Tommy!! It is time to remind her just how wonderful and special and strong she is. And so are you Georgia
Kitty Katz 7 months ago
Meanwhile, Back on the Nile
Puckmosis: I would like to propose we on the Nile celebrate Just Because.
Queen Catshepsut the Golden: A most excellent idea, Puck. We have a great supply of cheese and it would be wonderful to share it.
Lupinium: I’ve been rehearsing with the Getting Better Dancers. They could provide the entertainment.
Ora Zella: My group Mallets Towards None needs some new instruments.
Lupinium: Why is that?
Ora Zella: Well, I may have been a bit more enthusiastic with the mallets than necessary.
Beatrixia: Don’t worry. Mandy and Lynn can create some new instruments for you.
Elvis-Anum: But aren’t they luthiers? I thought they made stringed instruments.
Bea: They like to branch out to other things.
Puck: How is Sophititi doing? She has had a lot on her mind lately.
Bea: I think the trip to Britannia helped a lot.
Lupinium: Yes. Her trip across the known world did her a world of good!
Lady Bri 7 months ago
Inspired by BarbaraKrooss’ beautiful verse mangling—with apologies to Emily Dickinson:
Heart! We will forget him!
You and I – with ease
You may forget the butter he loved –
I will forget the cheese!
*
When you have done, pray meow
That I may not paint his grin
Haste! lest while on sunspot curled
I remember him!
Gamerkillss 7 months ago
CHEESE
erinurse2000 7 months ago
Tommy is such a good friend